What Shapes My Life

After learning about Genie in psychology class, and then again in sociology- it really made my heart go out to the children/adults who have been neglected as harsh as Genie. The way you act is shaped by the experiences you encounter. Also, the people that are involved in your life shape the way you live and act. One experience that truly impacted my life was when my mom became very sick when I was in 6th grade. I didn't know much at the time, but she went off on Halloween telling me that it was just a check-up. Little did I know that she had complications and would need surgery. At 12 years old, my dad kept very little knowledge from me. My mom ended up in a coma and ended up being in the hospital for 6 weeks- missing Thanksgiving that year. Thankfully, luck was on her side and my mom made a full recovery. Ever since then, I have learned to never take things for granted. My mom is like my best friend, and every day I wonder what life would have been like without her. It is those kind of experiences that open your eyes to reality. I now live my life to the fullest, and never take anything/anyone for granted.

Forgiving Ourselves

After watching "Tuesdays With Morrie," I found a quote that stuck out to me- mainly because it is relateable towards my life. "We...need to forgive ourselves...For all the things we didn't do. All the things we should have done. You can't get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened." The true meaning of this passage is that you should forgive yourself because if you didn't do the things you didn't do then you wouldn't have done the things you did do. Simply, don't live your life with regrets. Don't live in a world of "what ifs." I always had wondered that if I didn't act out a certain way, then how could that situation have gone differently. But, there is a reason we acted that way, because it's what we felt. Although many of us play back in our heads what we should've done, I believe that everything happens for a reason. In the movie, Mitch regrets not seeing Morrie earlier, until the day he founds out he is getting very ill. Since he hadn't set out to do that until 16 years later, Mitch made a living for himself becoming a sports journalist. All I'm really saying is that, live your life by the moment... and if something passes you by, it was meant to be because everything happens for a reason.

American Values

After have looking at Robin Williams US Values List, one of them stuck out to me more than the others. "Individualism emphasizing personal rights and responsibilities." This definitely applies to my life, especially nearing the end of my high school career. Heading off to college allows for us to have this sense of freedom, after all there are no parents around to be nagging you to get to school, or to clean your room. My personal rights grow as I get older- including one that I recently have gained, the right to vote. The responsibility part comes in mainly because I will have to remember a lot more on my own since college will not include my mom always being right there. I respect that Williams has added this to his values list, because by being an individual, you discover more than you would have with others. Nothing can get in your way- which is why I am really looking forward to college. It will allow me to join a sorority, intramurals, and pick and choose the clubs I'd like to be a part of. Inidividualism lasts throughout your whole life. That's why it is great to learn how to be responsible on your own now, so you know how to live a healthy life in the near future.

Gestures Around the World

Since I have never been to another country that has significant differences in the way we use gestures; I have decided to research what other countries to do greet one another. Sociologists tend to look at different gestures because they need to understand how the bigger world around us behaves. Just in North America itself, greetings differ. For instance, in Canada, women greet with a slight nod while men greet with a firm handshake. The men in Mexico tend to be a little bit more firm by patting a man on the back along with a slight hug. But, here in the United States women are known to hug other women while men quickly kiss the cheek of a woman. In other parts of the world, I found it weird that in Egypt- a handshake is followed by a touch on the elbow. In the Philippines you greet with a quick flash of the eyebrows. It is always interesting to see what we interpret as a handshake for a greeting, can be turned into something so different around us.

Culture- The Way We Live

Yesterday, in class we were split up into groups and given certain directions on how to play a card game. Once the loser and winner left from my 'culture' and two new players joined; the game was then played again. Since my culture was set on the idea that aces trumped all, we continued to play like that. But, when the new players started to play, they encountered a culture shock due to the fact that they learned to play the game differently. When you enter a new territory, you either want to revolt against what is presented right in front of you, or not argue and give in to how the culture has already been established. For instance, last winter break I went to Miami, Florida. Since it is so close to the border of Mexico, every employee who worked at the mall spoke Spanish. It was quite overwhelming, because I had stopped taking Spanish after sophomore year. Even the signs at the grocery store were in Spanish. Like the card game, I had either a choice of going against what was presented in front of me, or try my best and adjust to the language that was predominantly spoken in Miami. I also experienced this shock when I went to Mexico. There happened to be stray dogs everywhere! In the United States, that sort of thing is looked at as maybe someone lost their dog. But, the dogs in Mexico had no collar or identification. It is definitely looked at differently between different cultures. When we enter a new culture, we must learn to adapt and learn how each of their customs work.

Cookie Thief

Each day, many people are faced with different personalities. Each class I take consists of many students whose strengths and weaknesses differ. On the first day of school everyone tends to judge too quickly. They don't take a chance to get to know maybe someone who is quieter, or the person sitting in the back of the room. The only way to get past our judgemental selves, is to come into class with an open mind. A really good example for us seniors, is finding a roommate for college. Many of us have joined the college groups on facebook, or have taken surveys to pair us up with each other. I can admit that I have been some what judgemental when it comes to finding the right one. Just because they look a certain way, doesn't necessarily mean that they wont have the same interests as you. In the past I have been quick to judge. In Charon's story, many people have been known to generalize, stating that only rich people vote republican. But, that is not the case at all. In reality, people need to start to let down their judgements about people and enter any situation with an open mind.

Focusing on the Arts-- ODYSSEY!

Looking back on the past two days, some classes that I got put into for Odyssey really put me into a different atmosphere. One class that left me skeptical before entering was Dancing Wheels. At Dancing Wheels, two girls were permanently confined to a wheelchair, while another girl and boy danced on their feet. At times the tricks they did were neat, but overall it left me thinking why they were asked back. That was because the environment I happened to be sitting in was surrounding by other people who had heard this performance wasn't at all entertaining. Since it was located in the field house, where they sat us in uncomfortable bleachers- it definitely influenced the way I perceived the dance. Since my back was already hurting me, I knew I wouldn't focus on the performers. Many people didn't take it seriously because seeing something so unusual stuck them as odd. People in such a society as the one we live in today, have a mind set about what looks normal to them. As every performer does at the end of their act, they ask the audience if anyone has a question. But, this time no one raised their hands. Usually if that happens the performance is over. In the case of the dancers of Dancing Wheels, they preceded to ask questions within each other while the audience just listened. I felt that it created a very awkward atmosphere. By being faced with something that I normally don't see everyday made me laugh. Our society has grown up learning that when asked a question to respond. Similar to the analogy about saliva turning into spit being gross. In a way, by watching something unfamiliar to our society it left us questioning ourselves with a sociological mind.